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Cultivating Truly Honest Self Worth

August 2, 2016 by Dawn Michelle

After taking off the month of July from Minimalist Beauty, the topic of self worth just kept popping up over and over for me.  How we see ourselves is much more valuable than how others view us.  I honestly can’t imagine anyone on this planet not having experienced trauma in life in some form or another.  The experience of living has the duality of both good and bad.  When you take the time to heal past traumas, and begin to redefine yourself from a loving and empowered perspective, the world opens up to you in unimaginable ways!

So often we define our self worth based upon our romantic or other relationships, education, job status, income, and appearance.

For the first time in my life I actually understand what true self worth is on a much deeper level.  I am sure that I still have an infinite amount more to understand, yet I can feel a dramatic shift in how I see myself and others.  Self worth actually has nothing to do with relationships, education, income, or appearance.  Yet all of those can have a serious positive or negative effect upon our self worth.

Growing up in a family where education and achievement was of supreme importance, I learned to define myself and my value based on academic achievements and recognition.  As young professional, I based my self worth upon what prestigious jobs I was booking as a dancer.  Being rewarded and acknowledged translated to being valuable, which was not my true self worth although I believed it to be.

I didn’t understand that I was truly valuable just for being. 

Being a kind and loving soul to myself and others was more than enough in life.  Also having experienced my own traumas in the past, I had a very low self esteem which was only empowered through achievement.  I honestly believed my value was based on my talent, achievement, and intelligence.  I wanted to share with you four paradigms that truly helped me to cultivate more and more self worth over time.

1. Setting Boundaries Creates Respect

If you are truly honest with yourself, you know when something feels good or feels bad.  There is nothing more empowering than saying “no” to others’ demands upon your time and your energy.  If you are a compassionate person, you will naturally want to help others and give positive and loving energy to those around you.  At the same time, giving loving energy is not possible if you are completely worn out and self neglected.  Finding the balance of how much to give to others and when to refuel yourself is vastly different for everyone.

What has been surprisingly fascinating for me is how much others will respect you for being honest and setting boundaries.

If you need to rejuvenate, and would be doing something for someone else with resentment, you are automatically out of alignment with your own best interest.  There is nothing wrong with a loving “no”!  We naturally have more respect for others and ourselves when we make choices for the best of everyone involved including ourselves.  This also builds more confidence.

2. Obligation Is Unnecessary

Obligation is defined as “an act or course of action to which a person is morally or legally bound; a duty or commitment.  A debt of gratitude for a service or favor.”  Everything about this word feels kind of yucky to me simply because it withholds the power of joyfully choosing to do something or not.

Obligation seems to have an emotional tie with guilt which I consider unhealthy.

With everything in life there are consequences even on the smallest level just like pushing snooze on the alarm clock in the morning.  I am not suggesting illegal behavior of any kind.  When I speak of obligation here, it has more to do with commitments that are no longer feeling good, and not giving up your own best interest to serve someone or something else.

While decluttering my home, I learned that it is just as important to let go of unnessesary possessions as it is negative relationships, time and energy draining organizations, and any unnessesary items listed on the to-do list which are really not that important.  Discernment with how and whom we spend our time and energy definitely enhances self worth.

3. Releasing Vices Is Intensely Empowering

If you push down your negative feelings obsessively in excess with foods, shopping, alcohol, drugs, sex, television watching, and other vices, your body will store these negative emotions, and your self image will be grotesquely distorted.  Now this topic is most likely a book in itself, but is still one worth addressing.  Life isn’t always kind.

I completely understand using substances and behaviors to “deal” with life, yet I no longer see vices as very helpful and definitely not empowering.

My two vices used to be sugar and shopping.  My first dance job was such a disappointment that at that time I would eat a box of shortbread cookies a day to “lift” my spirits.  I would also call them crackers since I was in denial about my coping behavior.  I gained a bit more self worth when I left that job, and much later released my addition to sugar.  For years and years later I was a compulsive shopaholic.  I’d achieve a false and very temporary “high” in life by spending any free moment at the mall.  I wracked up a hearty amount of consumer debt in the process which I later paid off and shared how.

It wasn’t until I started taking full responsibility for myself and my life that I started embarking upon the minimalist lifestyle in 2010.  What started as a minimal lifestyle journey evolved into truly conscious living.  I began looking at everything in my life and clearing out the mess which wasn’t serving me.

I also really began doing healing work on my emotional body and facing past traumas.  It wasn’t a pretty sight, and it was an extremely personal process.  I intensely felt and released so much stored pain of the past that I literally thought I would die.  It isn’t fun facing our “demons”, yet the amount of Angels that come to your side during the process is immensely healing.  There is nothing more empowering than facing negative emotions and experiences of the past while releasing the vices that keep your self image poor.

4. Healing Through The Arts

I have been extremely blessed to have dance as a creative expression and healing tool.  I can’t tell you how many “therapy sessions” I have had on the dance floor.  I am not just speaking of dancing solely in actual classes or performances, but when I danced myself to tears in the privacy of my apartment until I literally fell lifeless on the floor.  Those moments weren’t about creating choreography or making up new freestyle moves, but for pure healing.  Since we can unconsciously store pain in our bodies, dancing can help shake up this pain and release it.

Art and expression are vital in life for survival and healing.  The world news and energy has been very upsetting lately, and seeing my favorite musical artist Amel Larrieux live in concert this past July was absolutely amazing.  Saturating your life with as much art as possible naturally raises your vibration.  Art, not technology alone, has been the foundation of every civilization that has ever existed.

It is not about being the best, or even sharing and displaying your art.  Expression is a gift that you give to yourself.

It is something that making the time for will reward you in every area of your life.  For some we do make it a career, but that doesn’t mean that you can’t do it too.  Write, draw, paint, knit, sew, design, sing, play music, dance, anything to express the beauty that is within you, and to release any pain that is a life lesson of the past.  Healing through the arts assists us to move on to the life we truly desire.

Cultivate, Cultivate, Cultivate

Looking presentable will make you feel good when you start your day.  Having a good job with a secure income will make you feel safe in that you will have your necessary needs met.  Feeling truly loved by another eliminates loneliness and is emotionally supportive.  Educating yourself on topics that interest and inspire you feels incredible.  These things are all very important in life.

What I’ve discovered is that developing a true sense of self worth allows living to be an empowering and much more enjoyable experience.  I stopped worrying as much about what others think of me, and have focused primarily on what I think and feel about myself.  Self worth is cultivated and nurtured.  Having a truly honest sense of self worth also attracts more beauty, love, and abundance into your life.  These four paradigms that I’ve shared today along with prayer and meditation have helped me tremendously to create more and more self worth every day.

How do you cultivate true self worth?

(Image by Dawn Michelle)

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  1. Trish says

    August 3, 2016 at 12:17 pm

    This was beautiful i should have read it at home because my heart swelled and i wanted to cry. I am at the point in life that i feel more and more like i want to be in solitude because of late a lot of emotions around relationship keeps repeating itself and i know that it is time to put this to a stop. I’ve been going back and forth wanting to please myself and wanting to please others. So i made a solid decision this morning to please myself and detach myself from people that brings up certain emotions in me base on their actions, and also to detached myself from my phone and i now leave it at home while i am at work, no distractions to see if i have any new messages or checking social media.

    I am now diving deeper into my spiritual journey of being in the now, self love and self care, taking my time to do things this allows me to be present in the moment. And yes practicing saying no with a smile and knowing that its OK i cannot please everyone. I no longer/still working on emotions around not have a partner or kids and this too is OK. Just taking it one day at a time and the best thing for me is knowing what i need to work on me and doing just that with a smile and a peaceful heart. I am not perfect hey nothing is perfect so i am letting go of expectations wants and needs and appreciating what i have and being satisfied with myself.

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    • Dawn Michelle says

      August 3, 2016 at 8:46 pm

      Hi Trish,
      Your comment is so heartfelt and honest, and I truly appreciate it! Self love and self care is the foundation of being at peace in my opinion. And no you will never be able to please everyone. It is not selfish to put your own needs first so that you can be of better service to others when the time comes. Trying to help others depleted doesn’t really help anyone since you are unable to even give your best. I am behind you 100% and will gladly be your self care cheerleader! Best wishes with everything!

      Reply
  2. Sandra says

    August 3, 2016 at 7:51 pm

    I love this post! So powerful, so true, so wonderful! Thank you for sharing your insights and wisdom with us.

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    • Dawn Michelle says

      August 3, 2016 at 8:48 pm

      Hi Sandra,
      Thank you so much for your kind words! I am so glad that this article resonated with you. I wish you the very best of everything you can dream of!

      Reply
  3. Jen Herman says

    August 4, 2016 at 9:13 am

    What a blessing. I admire your heart and hope to be more like this.

    Reply
    • Dawn Michelle says

      August 4, 2016 at 1:52 pm

      Hi Jen Herman,
      I am so glad that this resonated with you, and thank you so much for your kind words! I truly appreciate it!

      Reply
  4. Sandy says

    August 5, 2016 at 4:25 pm

    Life is a paradox. It’s not about others; it’s about yourself. But when you improve yourself, it’s about others as well.

    Thanks for this message and suggestions.

    Reply
    • Dawn Michelle says

      August 6, 2016 at 11:42 am

      Hi Sandy,
      Thanks so much for always taking the time to comment! It is amazing how we are all so connected, yet everything really does begin from within ourselves. It is so easy to get distracted by what is going around us though. Have a beautiful day!

      Reply
  5. Jess says

    August 5, 2016 at 9:04 pm

    Thank you! I have been on my own self discovery journey this year, and am making some of the same conclusions as what you are talking about, but I hadn’t quite tied it all together or given it the language. You’ve done a wonderful job and I really appreciated reading your words, and feeling reassured that I am on the right track. I honestly felt a rush of warmth when I read your words, and felt like “YES… this is the truth!” If we happened to be in the same room together, I am certain I would feel you emanating your strength, compassion, love, authenticity…

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    • Dawn Michelle says

      August 6, 2016 at 11:55 am

      Hi Jess,
      Wow thank you so much for your kind words! I doubt that the journey of self discovery ever ends and I welcome all to join this beautiful and sometimes crazy journey. My grandmother lived to be 101, and she always said that she was still learning, yet she always had strong insights at the same time. I think it had a lot to do with her trusting herself first, yet she was always open to more information. I am so glad that this resonated so well with you. Wishing you the best of everything and continue to shine brightly!

      Reply
  6. Natalie Gluck says

    August 20, 2016 at 9:47 am

    Love this, Dawn. Just what u needed to read today.

    Reply
    • Dawn Michelle says

      August 22, 2016 at 5:22 pm

      Hi Natalie Gluck,
      Thanks for stopping by and letting me know! I’m so happy you liked the article. I hope that you have been enjoying your summer!

      Reply
  7. Elle says

    August 23, 2016 at 6:06 pm

    What a wonderful article–thank you Dawn Michelle. I have recently released myself from a group of “fair weather friends”, or in your words, seasonal/associate friendships. It has been tough to realize that I was investing so much more in them than they in me, but I’d rather be alone than in bad company 🙂 It took me a long time to accept this, however–it is easy to get lonely in this crazy world we are in.

    I’m also in the process of releasing a couple of final vices, ones which have had a firm grip on my psyche and lifestyle for the past 10 years or so. Interestingly, I’m missing them less and less…and oddly I feel a sort of gap/nothingness/void, because everything I was thinking and feeling for so long was colored by these choices. But no more! I really feel like a new self is developing, and instead of being scared of change, I am ready to welcome it, come what may.

    Now, It looks like it’s time to cultivate, cultivate, cultivate, as you indicated. For years I was too afraid to go for my dream. I’ve chosen to reinvest myself in the arts and to work through the inertia from past years of negative emotions to finally produce the body of work I’ve been dreaming of. It’s a bit overwhelming sometimes, but now I’m realizing that even that feeling is a choice, it is us who decides how and what we feel 🙂

    All the best to you and those who are working through self-esteem issues past and present!
    XO

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    • Dawn Michelle says

      August 23, 2016 at 6:27 pm

      Hi Elle,
      I can tell that all of these new choices you have been making are creating a lot more space in your life for what your truly want! Thank you so much for sharing this and I wish you the best with developing your new body of art work. Also I feel that learning to love your own company is a valuable skill. The more you can appreciate how amazing you are the more others will too. Peace and Sunshine!

      Reply
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