I’ve read before that the word FEAR is the acronym for False Evidence Appearing Real. There is a difference between operating under the influence of fear and listening to your intuition. Another simple expression that my Nana used to say is “In doubt don’t!” Learning to trust that quiet inner voice is truly about trusting yourself versus everyone around you if it just doesn’t feel right.
Usually the intuitive voice is calm while the fearful voice is like having your thoughts blasting on the radio in your head.
I had a wicked day on Tuesday where a job that I auditioned for a week or so past was now interested in having me as a possible candidate for the position. Intuitively something about the gig just didn’t seem right even though the vague job description had a few perks. I can honestly say that with this job I had a serious mix of emotions. Not a promising combination along with some very clear doubts that went along with it.
In short I was jumping through some ridiculous hoops without any notice for a job that I hadn’t even been offered yet. Some of the requests made absolutly no sense at all, and not much was being explained. Plus there was a slight form of pressure/persuasion that was feeling seriously out of whack. The vagueness of the performance industry baffles me sometimes.
There were two other girls on hold for this one position. In the end the job was offered to one of the other girls. At first I was disappointed, but shortly after extremely relieved. A huge burden was lifted off of my shoulders because something just didn’t feel right, plus it was out of the country. I have been very blessed to have traveled to so many countries for dance work, but certain things must be lined up properly for it to be a safe and pleasant experience.
With all relationships whether they are personal or business, you want them to start out the way you want them to end up.
Just like when you are dating, I would never expect a date who doesn’t do what they say they are going to do in the very beginning to all of a sudden become reliable later on. The same goes with business, if the job starts off badly, I wouldn’t expect it to become a dream job, or even a gig that will be peaceful on any level. I have no problem with working hard as that’s my nature. I’ve just experienced enough jobs where professionalism and organization made things run very smoothly.
How it feels in the beginning is intuition speaking.
I’ve always taken risks in life. Otherwise I would have never switched from being an English major in college to a Fine Arts degree program, and I would have never pursued dancing professionally. It is usually fear which prevents you from doing what your heart truly desires. “It’s just not practical!” “Who do you think you are?” “You can’t actually do that!” “You’re not special!” “You don’t have the resources!” “You don’t have the skills!” Honestly these thoughts are all nonsense! A way can always manifest, and you are amazing!
Fear should be another name for ego which prevents you from living your dreams!
These risks that I’ve taken in the past and continue to take always come from that quiet voice or feeling that I am to do something different than just keep it safe. Regardless of what is practical, I always need to follow that quiet voice or feeling. No matter what others said I still need to follow that quiet nudge.
No one can experience life through you, so it has been my vital mission and slight tug of war for me to always follow my own intuition versus only listen to others. I do still listen to sound advice given to me. But when it comes down to it, only I know what’s truly best for me, and that quiet inner voice has never steered me wrong.
Listening to our body is essential. I believe our body is also part of our intuitive wiring.
I’ve found these physical alerts or sensations in my body to sometimes be subtle, yet nudge me into positive directions while also keeping my best interest in mind. Sometimes it is not so subtle and I literally feel sick about something. I do my best to pay attention to the signs no matter what form they come in.
Learning to distinguish intuition from fear is a constant practice. Making the time to meditate, pray, do yoga, spend time in nature, and get out of the daily ruckus of life has helped this inner voice only become stronger. Taking the time to get away from the daily madness and especially media helps to figure out what is truly guiding you. I have found this to be the most important thing for my life.
Sometimes we just need to turn that radio off!
Note… This article was revised/republished from May 2012. I wanted to share some of the writing that sometimes gets lost on Minimalist Beauty. This also gives me some time to finish working on the behind the scenes of this site after the new theme launch. Wishing you all a beautiful weekend!
(Image by D Sharon Pruitt)