“It has absolutely nothing to do with you” has been one of those phases that I’ve had to adopt over the years of being a professional dancer. Although I have worked in the New York City dance scene doing musical theatre, commercial, and company work, I’ve spent most of my dance career doing commercial work in Los Angeles. With the Hollywood scene, many jobs are centered around an image to fit a corporate client’s vision, a musical artist’s height and trendy vibe, a costume size, and other things that literally have nothing to do with your specific talent or lack there of.
Therefore definitely always work on improving your craft, but taking audition results personally is pointless because most of the time it isn’t.
For me 2015 represented a year of releasing the past, a lot of forgiveness work, and detoxification physically and emotionally. If you can imagine tackling all of these things at once, it wasn’t an enjoyable experience. My intention and focus for 2015 was “freedom” in every area of my life possible. Little did I know what I was getting into when I set the intention of freedom in January 2015. In order to truly experience freedom in your life, you must emotionally and physically declutter all of the toxic anger, hurt, and pain that you have been holding on to whether you are conscious of it or not. In essence 2015 was an extremely rough year for me with a lot of emotional and physical strife as I released a lot of hurt.
Between the intense release work that I did and thinking about my dance life motto, I had a major revelation at the end of the year.
I can attest that emotional decluttering is worth every river of tears, prayers of forgiveness, moments in meditation, emotional journaling, along with physical detoxifying even though it is an extremely rough process. Feeling emotionally light afterwards is the incredible reward. During one specific morning meditation focused on forgiveness, I had the realization that any cruel experience without warning that I may have endured in the past (whether it was a seriously rude remark, ill inappropriate behavior, or malicious act) may have truly had nothing to do with me.
Forgiveness isn’t always easy, but it is necessary if you want to experience life with fresh eyes. Forgiveness also isn’t about saying that what happened was right or OK either. It’s just about creating the space to emotionally let it go so it no longer weighs you down. I’ve been told before that “hurt people hurt people.” Their negative behavior has more to do with their current negative state of mind than it has anything to do with you. It is never completely personal even when it does feel painful. It is just being in the midst of a world wind of negativity. Holding onto anger, sadness, disappointment, and any other negative emotion was weighing me down because I had taken these past events personally.
These sometimes very upsetting life experiences are something to learn from, heal from, and grow stronger from, yet doesn’t directly have anything to do with our inner light.
I’m not sharing this to necessarily get deep, or too personal, yet it feels so amazing to take back my personal power and enter 2016 with a new assertiveness and fresh eyes. If it has absolutely nothing to do with you, and you don’t take experiences so personally while mindlessly nurturing the negative emotions like something precious, you are free to move gracefully toward your life purpose and fully enjoy your life. Emotional decluttering is just as valuable as physically decluttering your personal possessions. It is necessary!
One Love & Hello 2016!
(Image by Dawn Michelle)