This weekend I was thinking over what I had written in old journals that I was shredding during another decluttering session. I wish I had known then what I know now about how to better spend my money and my time. In some of the entries I wrote about not knowing where next month’s rent was coming from while waiting on residual checks from commercials I had been in, yet I had just gone to the mall and spent $150-$200 on some “much needed attire.”
What in the world was I thinking!? Why on earth was I spending money that I didn’t have? Why was I shopping so much and also buying disposable trendy clothing?
True Confidence Is Not What You Wear
At the time I had recently moved to California and felt extremely insecure in the Los Angeles dance scene. I did not have a clue what to wear to dance auditions since the leotard and tights of the New York City concert dance world was not an option. My insecurity translated to endless shopping for the “perfect” audition outfit. I was also spending a fortune on weaves, extensions, and hair pieces to fit the “required” image. Now looking back I know that the confidence that I needed was not in the mall or at the hair salon.
Are We Conditioned To Shop?
I feel like no matter what industry that you work in, society has a way to encourage women to focus excessively on glamour, beauty, and allure with insatiable contentment. If every women felt that she was enough exactly as she is in this moment right now, the economy would shift drastically because we would hardly ever be shopping. I will always be a fashion and beauty lover, yet I am very aware that I used to have an unhealthy relationship with consumerism to fill a void of insecurity.
Know What You Have Before Shopping
This past week as part of counting my personal possessions, I’ve been paring down my wardrobe. I placed worn out and no longer loved clothing in a bag to sell at a consignment shop or go to Goodwill. Usually I declutter my closet twice a year to prepare for the change in seasons. If I choose to purchase anything new, I know exactly what my wardrobe needs. This way I am not purchasing duplicate styles or items, and I save a lot of time and money.
Style Your Wardrobe
I’ve always organized my closet by putting like items together. Instead I decided to style my wardrobe and organize it instead by outfits with a few interchangeable pieces. Yesterday I was able to put together 10 complete summer outfits to go along with three great summer dresses and four perfect all season dresses. I can pretty much wear most of my wardrobe all year long because of the weather in Los Angeles by adding tights, leggings, layers, and sweaters as needed. Organizing and pre-styling my wardrobe ahead of time will help if in a rush, and I will always have plenty of outfits to wear. I plan to do another complete styling session for the fall/winter season this year.
If clothing is your weakness like it was for me, you may want to consider the capsule wardrobe!
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